Helping children understand why Daddy isn't here
For when Dad can't be around because it isn't safe. A gentle picture book for children after domestic violence, to help them understand, and to help you find the words.
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More about the book
It gives your little one simple words for the biggest questions, with nothing frightening in it. And it tells them what they most need to hear: none of this is their fault.
It's gentle enough for bedtime, for children aged about 3 to 8. And there's a poem in there just for you, too.
Three things every child needs to hear
When we left, there were three things I needed my son to know. This book says them for you.
A 23-second animation with music. Tap to play.
It isn't your fault
Little ones so often think it's because of them. It never is. They need to hear that, out loud, from someone they love.
You are loved
Daddy may not be here, but so many people are. Mum, Nan, Pop, aunties, cousins. Their love isn't going anywhere.
You are safe
Home can feel safe again. There's nothing scary in these pages, so you can read it together at bedtime, as many times as they need.
Take a peek inside
Soft watercolour pictures by Melbourne illustrator Jacinta Kay.
From one mum to another
When I left, I searched everywhere for a book to help my son understand why his daddy wasn't with us any more.
There wasn't one. So I wrote it.
Zoe x
More
There were books for when a dad has died, and books for when parents divorce. But nothing for when Dad can't be around because it isn't safe, or because he's chosen not to be.
If you're here, you probably know how hard it is to find the right words. I get it. It's really, really hard.
I wrote this book so you don't have to find them on your own, and so your child knows what mine needed to hear: it isn't your fault, you are loved, and you are safe.
Where would you like to start?
I'm a parent or carer
Not sure what to say when they ask where Daddy is? Start here. The words I wish I'd had, and how to read the book together.
Read the guide for parents →
I work with families
Thank you for what you do. Bulk copies, invoices and free resources for refuges, counsellors and schools.
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I need help now
You don't have to do this alone. In danger right now? Call 000. For free, confidential support any time, day or night, call 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732.
You don't have to do this alone. In danger right now? Call 999. For free, confidential support any time, day or night, call the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247.
You don't have to do this alone. In danger right now? Call 911. For free, confidential support any time, day or night, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788.
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